{"id":4615,"date":"2024-05-07T16:26:34","date_gmt":"2024-05-08T00:26:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ficfellowship.org\/?p=4615"},"modified":"2024-05-08T17:14:36","modified_gmt":"2024-05-09T01:14:36","slug":"mom-thank-you-for-being-a-good-role-model","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ficfellowship.org\/en\/mom-thank-you-for-being-a-good-role-model\/","title":{"rendered":"Mom, Thank You for Being A Good Role Model"},"content":{"rendered":"
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By Kimsang Nget
\n<\/span>2024.5.15.<\/span><\/p>\n

To celebrate Mother\u2019s Day 2024, we would love to share with you a story of a girl named SP.\u00a0 She is from a remote area in a province about 135km south-west of Phnom Penh city.\u00a0 She comes from a poor and dysfunctional family.\u00a0 Her mom passed away nine years ago when she was very young. Later, her father also left her, her younger sister and her grandma to remarry.\u00a0 Since her grandmother is very old and cannot work, SP was not taken good care of while growing up.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

SP dropped out of school since grade 5.\u00a0 SP and her younger sister worked hard for their relatives to have food to eat.\u00a0 They experienced loss, were bullied, blamed, scolded, and also violence.\u00a0 The greatest suffering she experienced was being raped by her relative when she was 14 years old.\u00a0 These experiences of being abused and violated made her a mistrustful, acutely stressed person with low self-esteem.\u00a0 She saw herself as ugly, worthless, helpless, stupid, and hopeless.\u00a0 She usually reacted to things with doubt, jealousy, great confusion, and aggression.\u00a0 She also lacked self-care and communication skills.\u00a0 She grew up in frustration and neglect.\u00a0 At the Girls\u2019 Home, her personality was very challenging and staying with roommates was very hard for her.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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SP find a new job after graduation<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

SP was found by Pleroma Home for Girls (PHG) in July 2020 after the authorities reported her case to us.\u00a0 Before SP was brought to PHG, she was rescued from an abusive relative by provincial officers.\u00a0 However, there were setbacks in helping her because she required\u00a0 many interventions and needed to learn many coping skills to deal with her emotions and needs at the time.\u00a0 SP herself also wanted to get further education and gain job skills for her future.\u00a0 Such learning and education were what she truly needed to cope with her emotions and recover from her trauma.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

When we started working with her, we saw that she had many mixed emotions of pain, sadness, pettiness, loneliness, isolation, fear, heart-brokenness, depression and anger.\u00a0 She sometimes behaved and responded to others with violence and disobeyed caregivers.\u00a0 She rarely called her family.\u00a0 Our staff understand she has trauma and know all this is not her fault. We have all worked as a team with the goal of supporting her and building her up again.\u00a0 Our team has been working so hard to support her as well as her family.\u00a0 We help our clients by deploying a client-centered approach and her case is no exception.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We work hard on busy schedules to cater to her special needs. We do not see her as a problem but as a golden seed to grow and to nurture and to let flourish. We responded to her with kindness, patience, genuine love, honesty, care, and consistency.\u00a0 After one year of adjustment and stability, she was able to attend regular school.\u00a0 Later on, she went on to learn how to become a hairdresser and also graduated from e-learning complementary junior high school.\u00a0 She is currently working at a salon.\u00a0 She is so happy that she can apply her skills to work.\u00a0 Now she can make money to support herself and her family.\u00a0 She is willing to learn and hopes to develop her \u00a0 knowledge and job skills in anticipation of new\u00a0 opportunities. \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

On April 3, 2024 – her program\u2019s graduation day – she wrote a letter to her mom who is now in heaven. Her letter says, \u201cTo my dear mom, I am so happy today!\u00a0 Do you know your daughter did it.\u00a0 I am so thankful to you for giving birth to me.\u00a0 Even though you are not on earth with me, I still remember your words to encourage me to do things.\u00a0 Your words have encouraged me so much.\u00a0 You were the strongest person that I have ever seen.\u00a0 Thank you for being a good role model to me.\u00a0 Today is a great achievement of my life.\u00a0 I am so excited!\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

She also expresses her gratitude to the organization and their support.\u00a0 Her big achievements are due to a lot of support from the people around her.\u00a0 She especially gives thanks to God for blessing and helping her to accomplish these great achievements, as well as to learn how to feel loved and cared for.\u00a0 Learning from Jesus and our staff, she is committed to spreading this love to others, especially girls and boys in need.\u00a0 She has also repented and asked for forgiveness for her misbehavior in the past few years.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We praise the Lord for blessing her life so far. We also show our appreciation for our staff and partners for their great contributions and all their support in bringing about this positive change in SP\u2019s life. We pray that the Lord will help her have a good time and cultivate relationships with the people around her as she moves on to a new page of her journey.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Let us celebrate Mother\u2019s Day and congratulate SP on her achievements together!!!<\/span><\/p>\n

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Author and SP at the graduation ceremony<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

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